How To Fully Let Go During Sex
I recently dated a guy who I couldn't finish with during sex. We had a good amount of sex. I liked him a lot, we had great chemistry and the foreplay was hot AF. But not to keep score or anything — because scorekeeping when it comes to sex never gets you anywhere good — out of all the times we had sex, he came percent of the time, while I barely orgasmed maybe two or three times. But I'm not alone here. A recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found a huge orgasm gap between straight women and everyone else. While 95 percent of straight men and 86 percent of lesbians say they usually or always orgasm, only 65 percent of straight women can say the same. While some tend to get concerned that they're unable to finish with their partner, I'm not. After some reassuring, neither was he.
Guys get a bad rap when it comes to sex. It's a label that men have orgasms but they don't give them, or can't after everything else long enough, or are oblivious en route for the needs of their partner. After that sure, some assholes don't bother reciprocating, or maybe they're just But around are plenty of guys out around trying really, really, really hard en route for be good at sex.
All the rage my early 20s, I had a friend with benefits. I thought a propos telling him to do what I did to get myself off—touch my clitoris—but I froze. The thought of correcting him triggered a wave of anxiety. Nobody else had ever essentially made me orgasm. The pressure was too much.