I love my partner but I don't feel like sex. Any advice for feeling that excitement again?
Question: I love my partner and we have a great relationship, but the lust is gone and I crave that new and exciting feeling that being with another person would offer. Any advice? Answer: This question is put to me in a variety of ways every week by all kinds of people in all kinds of relationships. Because this seems to be the benchmark of modern love and attraction. It's what is portrayed in movies and media. It comes about when you get a new lover — your skin connects with their skin and your brain gets signals of Oooh, someone new! It releases a set of sexy hormones oxytocin, dopamine, phenylethylamine, testosterone, estrogen, serotonin and dehydroepiandrosterone that help you fall in love. The pleasure centre of the brain takes over and starts making all the decisions for you. There is a lot of spontaneous and adventurous sex.
Around might be love. There might be commitment. There might be a concrete friendship at its core. Worth it — but hard. Desire feeds animal intimacy which in turn feeds association, nurturance and the protective guard about relationships.
Account from Sex. Ever wondered what you'd say to a therapist, given the chance? We asked a cognitive analytical therapist with over 30 years' cold experience for advice on the things we worry about in private. I have had little to no femininity drive in over 12 months, after that though I am currently having tests to rule out oestrogen issues, I am almost certain it is an issue of the mind. I am in a long-term relationship three yearsand we have lived together for half of that. We had a beneficial, passionate sex life for almost two years, and both felt satisfied.